WHERE DO YOU FEEL YOU MOST BELONG?

    Ah! This question. It feels like the simplest question to answer, doesn't it? But when you start to truly think about it, it becomes frustrating to find a meaningful answer to this question.

    When I was posed with this question, I thought very deeply, a nagging thought in my brain kept bothering me, asking me ," Do I really feel that I belong where I am right now?" I have never honestly felt like I belong anywhere, always felt like an outsider in this world... an outsider always looking in... feeling like I never really fit in... a misfit if you really feel the need to label it.

    Also, I just want to put it out there that I am not a recluse. If you don't know me you'll feel like I am living the dream. Good grades, good family, perfect friends, a roof under my head, meals provided for when hunger strikes. Yet why do I feel so alone and unhappy? Why do I feel like there is someplace else that I wanna be, it is calling me right now, I swear I can hear it but I don't know where to go. It's like I have the map with the directions on it but there is no destination and I am just running blindly.

    Then I realised the essence of this question. It is not talking about a geographical area. I realised that there is no specific material place that I should be belonging to. The place that I belong to is the place I feel happiest at the moment. It can be any place. You don't need to limit yourself to a few square footage. You need to find those spots in your life where you feel happy, safe, accepted and loved.

    It can be a shade under a specific tree that you love, your favourite table at the canteen, your favourite corner of the library, your bedroom, your regular hangout spot with your friends, your mother's lap, arms of your lover. My place can be you and I can be yours. The ultimate purpose of that place is to help you derive utmost happiness. After all, 'Home is where the Heart is!'💜

Liberating Quarantine

Ah! This quarantine!
Slips your mood to a decline;
Takes you far away from the goals you destined.
Ah! This quarantine!
But I'll tell you a thing so sublime;
Consider this as an opportunity of a lifetime;
Hear me out because this advice is worth a dime;
Bring into your life heaps of sunshine;
Open your hearts and celebrate each day like it's Christmas time;
Spread love, oh you soul so pristine!
Turn your back on all the slime;
Keep your priorities prime;
And capture in your fist the world so divine.

Real Utopia.

One friend said to other ," I will create a Utopia where there will be lack of insomnia,
More of laughter and cheers,
So my darling shelter no fears.
You will be detached from all your pain,
A visit here will not go in vain!"

To which the other replied," Oh brother dear, there is no coin without two sides,
Why to let our feelings slide?
Pain comes with gain,
Cheers come with tears,
There is no need to fear.
Only when you experience the yin with the yang,
You can say you have lived your life with a bang!

Apprehensions!

Everything fades,
And then it's just like hell of hades.
It all goes away in a poof of smoke,
Seems just like from a dream you awoke!
People come but they go,
Just like the winds that flow.
What was the point of being pretentious?
All it did was make a hole in your conscience.
Saying these words out loud may make you think I am eccentric,
I plead you to judge me like a maverick.
These words, dear, they come from what the eyes see and what the heart feels,
Do not mistaken it for my Achilles heel.
Love me or hate me it's your choice,
Here I am just giving my musings a voice.

Algorithm of Friendship

    Today I got a link from my friend. Curious as to what it was I opened it and it was some kind of quiz which would determine how best I know my friend. The quiz contained a series of questions ranging from her favorites to more intimate ones. To be honest, I barely passed the test. (To be honest I got her favorites right. I am not that horrible friend!). The result of the test resulted in her being pissed off at me.

     

     You would think, "What a crappy friend she is, who can't even pass a single quiz!" But I think a bit differently. The quiz and the communication that occurred later with my friend made me wonder, "Have our standards of measuring friendship really stooped down to this level?" "Are those mere scores really the measure of the love two friends share?"

      Back in the old days when there was no internet or any other modern day technology, people used to value friendship based on mutual trust, understanding and respect. A person was said to be a true friend if he stood alongside the person during his/her times of need. As the classic saying goes,"A friend in need is a friend indeed!". They did not calculate scores in order to judge the depth of their friendship.

      There is no predefined process as such to form friendship with people. You just meet the person and you both click. Sometimes a person you may know for 2 days might even be a good friend for you than the person you might be knowing since the past 2 years. You talk, get to know one another, develop common grounds, have fun times together, exchange ideas and opinions and, lo and behold, a friendship blossoms! No algorithms needed. It is that simple an equation. We should just quit the quizzes and make friendship the old school way.